Today’s episode offers a deep reflection on the common societal perception of estrangement. The author of the source article, Dr. Jaime Hoerricks, challenges the prevailing notion that distance or separation in relationships is inherently a failure—of love, effort, or maturity—often leading to moral indictment of the person who withdraws. Instead, she argues that this interpretation is inaccurate and overly simplistic, as rupture is not always sudden or a chosen dramatic act. The reflection posits that estrangement can be the eventual articulation of a necessary boundary formed slowly over time, representing a limit reached through exhaustion rather than conflict. The overall discussion connects these ideas to autistic estrangement and a queer ethics of non-ownership, suggesting that love does not necessitate possession.
Here’s the link to the source article: https://open.substack.com/pub/autside/p/pressing-pause-estrangement-sovereignty
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