Today’s episode explores the concept of “default intimacy” and its impact, particularly on autistic individuals. The author of the source article, Dr. Jaime Hoerricks, argues that common relationship scripts and milestones are not neutral, but rather clarify intimacy for some whilst causing fragmentation and harm for autistic gestalt processors. Dr. Hoerricks describes the unsettling experience when a relationship, previously felt to be stable and real, is abruptly subjected to examination through questions about its direction and definition. This process of “examination” is presented as demanding proof and placement, effectively treating something coherent as if it were provisional or unfinished.
Here’s the link to the source article: https://open.substack.com/pub/autside/p/beyond-the-couple-love-was-never
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