Shame tells you to keep those things hidden that might threaten your connection with the people and groups you're a part of. It has deep roots in survival from a time when getting exiled would be a death sentence. You needed to be a part of the community in order to ensure your survival.
So the things about you, the things you said and did that you're ashamed of? This was seen as one of the biggest threats to connection and to survival.
But here’s the thing: it’s no longer a death sentence to be exiled from the people you’re connected with. A saber tooth tiger is’t going to stalk you out in exile. BUT the threat of exile still ignites your survival response within your nervous system.
Because of this, you continue the pattern of self-shaming in order to keep yourself in good standing with the people you're connected to---sometimes at the expense of losing connection with yourself.
If you want to learn more about the process of breaking free of shame, tune into this episode for two strategies to support you in releasing the shame that binds you.
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