Description

Ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of everyone else’s happiness and success on your shoulders? You’re not alone. In this episode, the docs dive into the internal control fallacy, a sneaky thought distortion that convinces you you’re responsible for outcomes that are completely beyond your control.

From patient choices to workplace dynamics and even personal relationships, this fallacy fuels guilt, burnout, and emotional exhaustion. The docs get real about why this happens, how it’s impacting you, and what you can do to finally let go of the impossible.

🔥 What You'll Learn

✅ What is the internal control fallacy?

• It’s the mistaken belief that you’re responsible for external events or other people’s feelings, actions, and outcomes.
• Example: Thinking you’ve failed if your patient doesn’t follow your advice or if your partner isn’t happy 24/7.

✅ Why you CAN’T control everything (and shouldn’t)

• You can influence others with advice and support, but their actions are their own.
• Taking on responsibility for what’s not yours leads to resentment, burnout, and over-functioning.

✅ How this fallacy shows up in medicine

• Docs often feel like they’re failing if patients ignore medical advice or if family members reject a diagnosis.
• The truth? You’re responsible for the care you provide, not the choices others make.

✅ The consequences of over-functioning

• Burnout alert: Over-functioning (like taking extra shifts or overcompensating) doesn’t fix the system—it actually enables it.
• Medicine won’t ever say, “You’ve done enough.” You have to decide that for yourself.

✅ Breaking free from the fallacy

• Listen to your resentment: It’s your inner voice telling you that you’ve crossed a boundary.
• Set limits: You’re not the system’s superhero. You deserve sustainable work conditions.
• Detach with love: Offer influence, not control. You can’t own someone else’s choices.

🛑 Mic Drop Moments

✨ “If you’re feeling resentment, that’s your signal. You’ve got a boundary that needs to be enforced.”
✨ “The wheels sometimes have to fall off for the system to get upgraded wheels.”
✨ “When we overfunction, the system underfunctions. You’re making it more broken by trying to fix it all.”

🩻 Doc-to-Doc Wisdom

👉 You’re a physician, not a magician.
You provide care, not guarantees. When you find yourself carrying emotional responsibility for what you can’t control, pause and remind yourself: you’re in charge of your effort, not the outcome.

🎧 Tune In Now

🎙️ Whether you’re a physician battling burnout, a perfectionist constantly over-functioning, or simply someone who needs permission to let go, this episode will hit home. Listen in and learn how to break free from the internal control fallacy—because you can only carry what’s truly yours. 💙

Links:

Free Video: “How to Crush Physician Burnout (for Good) without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or ‘Sucking It Up’ in Silence”

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