In this powerful and moving episode, hosts Amanda, Laura, and Kendra interview Dr. Andrea Palmer, an OB-GYN who lost her surgeon husband, Dr. Blake Palmer, to suicide in 2022. Dr. Palmer courageously shares her journey through grief, anger, and ultimately compassion as she works to bring awareness to the critical issue of physician suicide.
Episode Highlights:
- Understanding language matters: The hosts begin with an important discussion about using the phrase "died by suicide" rather than "committed suicide" to reduce stigma and shame
- Alarming statistics: The medical community loses approximately one physician per day to suicide, with over 400 physicians dying by suicide in 2023 alone
- Dr. Andrea Palmer's story: How she met her husband in medical school, built a family together, and navigated the challenges of being a two-physician household
- Warning signs: Dr. Palmer reflects on her husband's undiagnosed ADHD, perfectionism, overwork, and inability to ask for help
- The impact of shame: How shame and distorted thinking can lead to tragic outcomes, especially when combined with easy access to lethal means
- Life after loss: Dr. Palmer's honest account of parenting two children through grief while managing her own emotions and professional life
- Protective factors: The importance of connection, community support, therapy, and normalizing mental health discussions in medicine
- Institutional response: A candid conversation about how healthcare systems often fail to support physicians in crisis or honor those lost to suicide
Key Takeaways:
- Community saves lives: "Never go down alone" should be a mantra for all physicians
- Seeking help is strength: Getting diagnosed and treated for mental health conditions can be life-changing
- Self-worth beyond medicine: Physicians must recognize that their value exists independent of their professional accomplishments
- Institutional change needed: Healthcare organizations must prioritize physician well-being over productivity and profits
Resources Mentioned:
- National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
- Physician Support Line: 1-888-409-0141
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy
- The Whole Physician wellness coaching
This episode serves as both a memorial to Dr. Blake Palmer and a powerful call to action for the medical community to address the systemic issues contributing to physician suicide. Dr. Andrea Palmer's courage in sharing her story reminds us that beneath our white coats, we are human first – deserving of compassion, rest, and support.
Resources:
Physician Support Line
Talk with The Whole Physician (Physician Wellness Triage Session)
Social Media: @fenomandrea
andreabpalmer@gmail.com
