When you think about what gets in the way of confident decisions, FEAR OF REGRET has to be at the top of the list.
It's easy for this fear to become a regular roadblock in your decision-making process, too.
Here's what I needed to do, to take back control of my decision-making process and stop experiencing such panic about "what I might regret" in the future:
- Practically addressing fears is its own (useful) step in the decision process
- Equally important is separating out your fear of "what might happen" from your fear of how you'll treat yourself
- Most often, our fear of regret is rooted in how badly we fear we'll judge & blame ourselves in the future, should things not go to plan
- You can start changing this pattern by letting go of judgment & blame of your Past Self, for what they "shouldn't have done"
- When you do that, you can start trusting your Future Self to act in kind (that is...Future You, dealing with whatever consequences from Today's Decision, won't beat YOU up for your choice)
The truth is: Learning to stay on your own team — NO MATTER WHAT — is the key to not living in fear of regret.
It's definitely a process, not a one-time event.
But it's work WORTH doing, for the sake of trusting your decisions — and yourself!
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