In our third episode on emotions, I dive into anger and shame, exploring how these powerful feelings affect us and how we can effectively manage them. I'll share my personal experiences with anger and shame, including recent situations involving my daughter. I hope this episode helps you better understand how embracing and comprehending these emotions can prevent them from controlling our lives.
Anger:
- Anger is a natural response to perceived wrongs, injustice, and unmet needs.
- It signals the need for change and can be productive when addressed intentionally.
- The importance of not holding onto anger.
- Taking compassion breaks to calm down.
- Expressing anger through physical movement or creative outlets like writing.
- Validating anger to remove associated shame.
- Recognizing anger as a secondary emotion that often masks deeper feelings of fear, sadness, or shame.
Shame:
- Shame is a vulnerable emotion linked to feelings of being flawed or unworthy.
- The difference between shame (feeling bad about oneself) and guilt (feeling bad about an action).
- How shame manifests in behaviors like avoidance, aggression, and people-pleasing.
- The negative consequences of shame and how it leads to undesirable actions.
- The power of empathy in countering shame.
- Discussing shame to diminish its power.
Managing Anger and Shame:
- Regulating emotions by anchoring and creating a sense of safety.
- Building a self-compassion practice to strengthen your relationship with yourself.
- Speaking to yourself with kindness, as you would to a friend.
- Developing resilience by understanding your shame triggers.
- Talking to a trusted person about your feelings.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Brene Brown
The Grand Hotel of Feelings
Dr. Becky
Rage on the Page
The Emotion Code
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