One of the most common questions people ask when wanting to date is how do I meet people. I certainly wondered about this when I was single. Most of my friends were married and by the time I was in my 30s, I really didn’t want to hang out in a bar. So how do you meet people? I have some ideas. As with much of what I recommend, it involves strategies and you’ll need to actually do it.
Familiarity
- Familiarity sparks friendships and relationships, find activities you would like to regularly participate in. The more others see you on a frequent basis, the more they get to know you.This will increase the probability of meeting people you get to know over time and allow relationships to grow.
- Take a new look at the places and activities you’re already involved in. Are there people in those places that can be of potential dating interest?
Try New Places
- The key is to balance familiar, regular places you go to with trying new places and events to meet people.
- Get outside of your comfort zone. Try new places, events, and activities.
- You never know what will come of it.
Online Dating
- Online dating is not for everyone, but can be a great way to meet people.
- Do what feels right for you.
- Always make safe decisions in getting to know someone and before you meet them in person.
- If you decide to try online dating, what are 1 - 3 sites you can look into and possibly join.
- It may be good to stay with a site at last three months before switching.
- Putting thought, time, and energy into these details to reflect who you are will likely increase the chances for success,
The Dating Profile
- I have talked about doing a dating profile before in Episode 12. A dating profile is a brief description of who you are and what you’re looking for in a relationship. Most dating sites and apps have a section for this.
- Even if you’re not doing online dating, you should have a dating profile.
- It’s a great opportunity to talk about yourself. Feel clear about what you have to offer someone and what kind of person you're looking to be with.
- Get down all your info, personal aspects you want to share, interests, and hobbies.
- See where you can share about your disability in a way that feels right for you.
Here’s some potential things you can include in a dating profile:
- What do you want people to know about you?
- \What are you looking for in a relationship?
- What kind of person do you want to date?
- Many people think of a dating profile as being for potential dates to read and decide if they want to get to know you.
- While that is true, the dating profile gives you great clarity
Check out our Dating Memberships:
Dating Made Easier (for all people wanting to date) - is a monthly membership for anyone (with or without disabilities) who wants support and guidance in dating skills and getting the RESULTS you want in dating and relationships. Click here to learn more.
Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more.
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