In my Dating, Relationships, and Disability framework I talk about the Power to Attract, which is when you begin focusing on how you are attractive (in all ways - physically, emotionally, personality, etc) and how your disability adds to who you are, you will draw others to you that will think the same. You are completely in control of this.
Why the Power to Attract is so important?
- People with disabilities can often feel like they’re not attractive enough due to the differences caused by their disability.
- The Power to Attract relates directly to one's recognition and ability to bring forth their strengths and most endearing qualities of oneself.
- Your sense of attraction is another core belief about yourself.
- You attract others because of much more than your looks.
- You attract people to you because of your inner qualities - your personality, how you treat others, your perspective on the world, etc.
- The most influential factor that can either promote or hinder one's sexuality is people's ability to own their Power to Attract.
- This is your ability to attract others to you.
- It is completely up to you how much you shine your Power to Attract.
Thoughts/Beliefs That Strengthen Your Power to Attract
- Believing that you and only you decide how attractive you are.
- Your attractiveness is independent of the opinions of others.
- Believing that others will be drawn to your positive qualities and how you handle the challenges you face.
- Believing there is someone out there wanting to date you. It sometimes helps to imagine someone, an actual person, out there wanting to meet you and spend time with you.
Where Do We Go From Here?
- Focus and believe in ALL you have to offer to a relationship. When people are dating, they are looking for what others have to offer and not what they lack.
- You want to attract people who see your disability as an asset, not a drawback.You want to attract people who see your disability as an asset, not a drawback.
- Your disability is most likely with you for life, you’re going to want someone who will see it as part of you and part of your Power to Attract.
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Music by Successful Motivation |
Artwork photo by Elevate
