In this powerful episode, host Leah Hadley welcomes Carla Shohet, a seasoned trauma psychologist and educator with over two decades of experience in trauma recovery, narcissistic abuse, and nervous system health. Carla shares her expertise on the complexities of divorcing a narcissist, the challenges survivors face, and practical strategies for protecting your well-being and your children during high-conflict separations.
Key Topics Discussed:
- Understanding Narcissistic Abuse in Divorce.
- How narcissism is a protective strategy, not merely a diagnosis or personality flaw.
- Why divorcing a narcissist isn’t just the end of a relationship, but a continuation of abuse in new forms.
- Survivor Strategies for Protection & Emotional Regulation
- The importance of keeping all communication in writing and meticulously documenting everything.
- Practical nervous system regulation techniques such as orienting (grounding in your environment), breathwork (extending the exhale to signal safety), somatic self-touch (subtle gestures for self-soothing), and the importance of staying hydrated during stressful situations
- Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting: why co-parenting is not realistic with a narcissist.
- Parallel parenting: setting firm boundaries, minimizing contact, and offering children one stable, healthy parent.
- The importance of having a trauma-informed support team. Trusting your gut when choosing legal, financial, and therapeutic professionals.
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Email: carla@carlashohet.com
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