Anger in a relationship often feels like it is caused by the other person.
Their behavior, their choices, their lack of follow through. But what if it's something else entirely?
Instead, your anger may not be about their actions but about their potential.
In this episode of the Bite-Sized Brilliance Podcast, Dr. April Darley explores partner dynamics through the lens of self-agency, expectations, and perception.
Drawing from patterns she has seen repeatedly in her coaching work, she unpacks why frustration and resentment often arise when we expect others to live by an internal playbook they do not know exists.
This conversation expands beyond romantic partnerships to include business partners, coworkers, and close relationships. It invites listeners into a deeper level of honesty about choice, willingness, and accountability.
Rather than offering relationship advice that focuses on fixing the other person, this episode centers on clarity, discernment, and personal power.
In this episode, you’ll explore:
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🕒 Episode Breakdown with Timestamps
00:00 Patterns in partner conflict and why this topic keeps showing up
01:00 Anger as an umbrella emotion
02:00 The internal playbook and subconscious expectations
03:00 Why no one is a mind reader
04:00 Self agency and the myth of “I can’t”
05:00 Staying vs leaving and choosing your strategy
06:00 Free will and consequences
07:00 Readiness, willingness, and change
08:00 What behavior triggered the anger
09:00 Anger at actions vs anger at unmet potential
10:00 Empathy, ideals, and disappointment
11:00 Choosing to stay for love vs fear or comfort
12:00 Honest self-reflection and accountability
13:00 Communication, alignment, and mutual growth
14:00 Discernment, patience, and personal power
15:00 Identity, mindset, and reclaiming agency
16:00 Offers, support, and next steps
