When love feels difficult, it may not be because it has disappeared. It may be because we are depleted. In this episode, we explore how exhaustion distorts patience, how self-criticism trains our relationships, and how love under pressure reveals what is actually happening inside of us. If we want more love in the world, we have to take responsibility for the internal posture we bring into it.
Love is not a personality trait. It is a capacity.
The same person can be generous one day and short-tempered the next. The difference is not character. It is capacity. When we fail to name depletion, we moralize exhaustion rather than address it.
If the connection is weak, love feels expensive.
Like a phone that charges all night but stays at 3%, we can be busy doing good things while disconnected from what restores us. Activity without replenishment leads to relational burnout.
How you treat yourself trains how you treat others.
The inner voice becomes the blueprint for outward behavior. Performance-based worth produces performance-based relationships. Self-criticism eventually turns outward.
Love reveals your internal posture.
The checkout line moment is not about the line. It exposes what was already inside. What we have not healed, we often project.
Love is practiced, not performed.
Love costs time, restraint, forgiveness, and sometimes silence. It is not a feeling you wait for. It is a behavior shaped by knowing your worth.
“If you live with a hammer in your own mind, you will eventually bring that hammer into every relationship.”
When I fall short, how do I speak to myself? And, what might that tone be training in my relationships?
Love is still possible. But it requires responsibility for what we carry, what we project, and how we show up when things get hard. The work begins closer to home than we think.
And, as always, I love you much!
