How can we start to become more aware of the ways we conduct ourselves in our lives, especially the way we conduct ourselves towards others? At a time when we are being encouraged to cheapen our relationships with one another, or to wield power over one another, can we catch on more sensitively to the ways we carry our shame, our wish to dominate, our fear, and how the protective parts of us respond to that in the way we bring ourselves to others? Can we nurture in us that which brings our fullest qualities forward, and which evokes them in others? And how do we attend to the patterns over time in us that we're expressing - patterns which may have been born in our own childhood or in the generations before us - and intervene thoughtfully and with integrity so we can more and more be the ones we are here to be?



This week's Turning Towards Life is hosted, as always, by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.



Episode Overview

00:00 Introduction to Turning Towards Life

03:00 Exploring the Source: Children Learn What They Live

05:46 The Impact of Parenting on Self-Perception

09:10 Understanding Inner Patterns and Their Origins

11:54 The Role of Consciousness and Observation

14:58 Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships

18:11 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing

21:03 Compassion and Understanding

24:12 The Importance of Reflection and Choice

26:48 Closing Thoughts and Future Conversations



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Turning Towards Life, a week-by-week conversation inviting us deeply into our lives, is a live 30 minute conversation hosted by Justin Wise and Lizzie Winn of Thirdspace.  Find us on FaceBook to watch live and join in the lively conversation on this episode. You can find videos of every episode, and more about the project on the Turning Towards Life website, and you can also watch and listen on Instagram, YouTube, and as a podcast on Apple, Google, Amazon Music and Spotify.



Here's our source for this week:



Children Learn What They Live



If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.



Dorothy Law Nolte, 1954

Family Column for the Torrance Herald newspaper



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