Episode #3
Speaking of LOVE
Guest: Bela Gandhi
On this episode we speak about LOVE – just in time for Valentine’s Day! Bela Gandhi, my friend and founder of Smart Dating Academy, tells singles how to date smart. Bela uses her talent for chemistry in a way that serves her clients and leads to weddings, lots and lots of weddings. If you think you can’t find love, you haven’t met Bela Gandhi. Bela’s love is speaking – so if you are single, or your adult child is single, or your best friend is single – take a listen and learn how you or someone you love can date smart!
Listening notes:
1:10 Meet Bela!
2:00 Lightning bolts & Bela’s budding matchmaking skills
4:14 Bela’s Super Bowl – Valentine’s Day
5:40 Bela’s life before Smart Dating Academy
6:16 Finding the “lid to their pot”
7:24 Bela’s chemistry talent
8:00 How I met Bela
9:08 Bela’s super power
10:12 Our friend Danielle Robay – Danielle’s episode drops March 2nd
10:19 Bela’s in my book! Page # 21
10:30 How Bela starts her story
11:26 Everyone has a story
12:00 Dating is storytelling - Smart Dating Academy
12:54 Teaching people how to date
14:30 Female vs. male clients
14:46 How long is the program?
15:00 Smart Dating curriculum
17:02 How has Smart Dating Academy grown?
17:25 Why is dating so hard?
17:53 The 3 dating lanes
18:38 Importance of the word “and”
19:10 Advice for parent to tell their kids
19:22 on-line dating
19:48 The fallacy of abundance
20:49 Bela’s own dating story
21:30 Bela’s spreadsheet
21:44 Mergers & Acquisitions
22:08 I love when things fit neatly together
22:30 When you do what you love it’s efficient
23:00 Weddings
23:24 Client story
25:16 High GHQ = Good Husband Quality
26:12 Singles take it to the phone!
27:51 My friend found love at 57
28:20 Oldest and youngest clients
28:57 Valentine’s Day is hard
29:38 What would you tell single people to do on Valentine’s Day?
30:32 Do you give love advice to your children?
31:15 Smart Dating Academy helps you fix you picker.
31:27 Avoiding alligators
32:35 Crazy can’t hide
32:59 What is the part about finding love that no one prepares you for?
34:21 The word “and” again
34:36 What’s exciting you right now?
35:22 Instagram Lives weekly
35:46 When are you writing a book?
35:55 Rebecca Rosin author of Spirited
36:52 How do you turn it off at night?
37:39 The #1 fear people have is speaking in public
38:34 Purpose
39:15 I found my own fear through comedy
40:42 I am attracted to women who are doing their own thing
41:29 Create your own content
42:17 Valslist – Val’s podcast drops February 24th
43:08 Where does your entrepreneurial spirit come from?
43:24 Bela’s no that launched her
46:55 My no story
48:04 Bela’s Best Love Tips
48:25 A psychotic optimist
48:58 Change your language
49:09 Look around! Is every person in a relationship HOT?
49:22 Change your energy
49:34 Have fun
50:23 Momentum
51:01 “Peddle the bike”
51:34 Sally Lou and Bela’s Love song duet!
52:29 If you weren’t a Smart Dating coach what would you be?
52:55 The arrival terminals at airports
53:08 Every place is a venue
54:10 Word you love the most?
54:25 Season you love the most?
54:40 TV series you love the most?
54:54 Favorite dating app?
56:55 What have your clients done that works?
57:49 2 truths and a lie and other ways to catch someone’s attention
58:45 Where can we find you?
58:54 Psychotic Optimist launching soon!
59:22 Bela’s heart
