Emotional Intelligence – EQ vs. IQ… EQ is The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. ‘emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success’
According to the bible we are not only emotional beings, but we are also complex creatures made up of mind, conscience, spirit & emotions all wrapped up in a physical body! And it’s all connected! Our emotions are not isolated or separate from our conscious, mind or body!
Psalm 32:3 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. 4 For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.
When we come to faith in Christ… God has so much more for us than to just “be good”. He also desires to reform and transform our lives, which includes our emotions!
A person may come to Christ with very damaged emotions… Either overly emotional… someone who is controlled and subject to their emotions. Or, someone who is almost non-emotional. Both are unhealthy!
The next 4 weeks Pat and I are going to dig into the role of emotions and how to deal with some emotions that become toxic in lives. Guilt, Anger, Fear, Anxiety & Grief.
Today: Dealing with Guilt and Shame –
- Guilt is about wrong doing… you feel bad about something you did wrong.
- Shame is about wrong being… you feel there is something essentially wrong or “bad” about you
In today’s culture…. Guilt is all but disappearing. People don’t feel guilt, because what was once wrong is no longer wrong! Be your own person… you decide what is right and wrong… BUT, what’s not going away is this deep sense that something is wrong in me. Watch just about any movie, Netflix…. You’ll see this over and over… Do I matter…? Am I significant…? Am I important…?
For 80+ years our culture has been working hard to shed the Bible’s morality…. And while more and more people don’t feel guilty about anything specific… I didn’t do anything wrong… But the feelings of worth… of significance… of shame… persist!
