In this special business bestie episode of Becoming You, I'm joined by my dear friend and Enneagram wizard, Tracy O'Malley, for a candid, hilarious, and deeply practical conversation about the paradox of visibility—why we ache for it, why we sabotage it, and how our Enneagram type quietly dictates both.
We unpack the emotional rollercoaster of being seen, the sneaky ways we hide (even while appearing visible), and why alignment matters more than any perfectly polished pitch. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a coach, or simply someone craving more impact, this episode will help you understand your unique relationship with visibility—and show you how to step forward without losing yourself.
What We Cover
The Paradox of Visibility: How the desire to make an impact collides with the terror of being truly seen.
Visibility, Enneagram-Style: A type-by-type exploration of why you resist the spotlight and how to navigate it.
Self-Sabotage & Resistance: The hidden patterns that keep you playing small—and how to interrupt them.
Vulnerability as a Superpower: Why showing your messy, tender parts is the gateway to connection and trust.
Authentic Alignment Over Hustle: Because if you're not aligned, the spotlight will chew you up every time.
Practical Strategies by Type: What visibility can look like for each Enneagram, from structured plans to spontaneous sharing.
Action Over Avoidance: Simple ways to start showing up, even if your voice is shaking.
Notable Quotes
"Visibility isn't necessarily the goal. Alignment is. Because without alignment, the spotlight will break you every time." — Tracy O'Malley
"Visibility is a mirror. There can be a reckoning, because it really confronts us with identity—whether it's our real identity or the one we're trying to put on." — Rebecca Cafiero
"We want people to see our brilliance without exposing the things we feel may be broken." — Tracy O'Malley
"The only thing keeping you from being visible and being seen and heard and valued for your genius is you." — Rebecca Cafiero
Tracy O'Malley
Enneagram expert, leadership coach, speaker, and creator of the Enneagram Blueprint—helping thousands of leaders leverage their personality for growth and impact.
🔗 tracyomalley.com
📸 Instagram: @tracy_omalley
Resources Mentioned
Tracy's Enneagram Blueprint — A deep dive into discovering your true type and patterns.
Tracy's Podcast — Check out her episodes on resistance by type.
Book: How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera (mentioned in our chat)
Inside Out (movie reference for all you Enneagram Fours)
Action Steps to Take
Discover your true Enneagram type (hint: free quizzes often miss the mark—get professional guidance).
Reflect on how your type shapes your visibility story and identify the pattern you're ready to break.
Choose one visibility action this week—no matter how small—that feels aligned and true to you.
Pair this episode with Tracy's podcast on resistance to deepen your self-awareness toolkit.
Remember: your next opportunity is waiting, but you have to pitch yourself first.
Resources & Links:
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