In this episode, we discuss:
- The most important technique for being safe, our first line of defense
- What happens in the absence of boundaries
- Setting firm boundaries
- Defending yourself when somebody crosses your boundaries and knowing when your boundaries are violated
Key Takeaways:
- Set and defend firm boundaries, it will prevent attacks. Setting boundaries is our right. Our ability to set them is what makes us far less vulnerable to intrusion, manipulation, or attacks.
- Predators and abusers see the absence of boundaries as a power vacuum - weak boundaries is what they look for. If somebody intrudes on your boundaries, it’s not your fault. But it’s your right and your responsibility to set boundaries.
- Acknowledge your intuition if something doesn’t feel right. Assert your feelings to someone who’s making you feel uncomfortable, and get ready to back up that assertion because it will be challenged.
- Predators are looking for a way to control and get to someone’s mind; small acts of denial of their control can save your life. Assert your limits, speak firmly.
- Setting boundaries is our first line of defense, if a predator crosses that, you have to take further actions to defend yourself. Yell, tell them to back away. If that doesn’t work, prepare to defend yourself physically.
"Setting limits around our mind, our authority, our sense of self, it’s what keeps us intact as having the ownership over our own lives and determining what’s around us." — Cynthia Jolicoeur
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