Feeling distant from your spouse? Here's how trauma and shift work quietly disconnect law enforcement couples — and how to rebuild intimacy.
EPISODE SUMMARY
This episode dives deep into the unique challenges law enforcement couples face — from emotional disconnection and trauma's ripple effects to rebuilding intimacy and trust. Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S and founder of Code4Couples, joins Adam Davis to unpack how hypervigilance, shift work, and unspoken stress erode connection. Through real stories and practical communication tools, Cyndi explains how to reconnect, rebuild emotional intimacy, and strengthen resilience as a team.
Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, NCC, is a licensed professional counselor supervisor, author of Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship, and the founder of Code4Couples®. She helps first responder couples build strong, connected, and trauma-informed relationships that can thrive beyond the badge.
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00:00 Intro & Adam's welcome
01:00 How Code4Couples began
04:00 The truth about "communication problems" in police marriages
08:00 How trauma changes the way couples connect
12:00 Vulnerability and emotional honesty in law enforcement relationships
16:00 When your spouse withdraws — how to approach with empathy
20:00 Physical touch and intimacy after trauma
27:00 Keeping your relationship on "simmer"
29:00 Cyndi's message on living unconquered
31:00 Wrap-up & resources
