Are You Having These 4 Conversations That Keep Police Marriages Healthy?
Every police couple faces stress, shift work, and emotional strain — but few know the key conversations that keep relationships connected and strong.
In this conversation, Cyndi talks with Amber Smith, a licensed marriage and family therapist and law enforcement spouse, about the essential conversations every police or first responder couple needs to have early—and revisit often—to build a resilient relationship. They discuss financial boundaries, reintegration rituals after shifts, communication during tough calls, and understanding personal activation points that impact connection. Amber shares real examples from her own marriage and clinical experience to help couples navigate the unique stressors of police life. The episode is filled with practical tools for improving connection, communication, and long-term wellness in law enforcement relationships.
👩💼 Hosted by: Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, NCC — licensed professional counselor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line.
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🔹 Connect with Amber Smith: https://foundtherapyservices.com/
Amber offers therapy and workshops for first responder and law enforcement couples through Found Therapy Services, including programs for new marriages, mid-career officers, and retirement transitions.
00:00 – Intro: Meet Amber Smith
02:00 – From Ministry to Law Enforcement Life
06:00 – The 4 Conversations Every Police Couple Needs
09:00 – Setting Financial Boundaries
11:00 – Reintegration Rituals After Shift
15:00 – Communication After Tough Calls
27:00 – Knowing Your Activation Points
33:00 – Building Resilient Relationships
42:00 – How to Connect with Amber Smith
