In this candid conversation, Cyndi sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Shannon Brown, who's also a law enforcement spouse of 16 years, to talk about one of the hardest topics most couples avoid — affairs. Shannon shares how infidelity can happen even in strong relationships, what couples should do immediately after an affair is revealed, and the steps to rebuild trust, connection, and hope.
Short Episode Summary
You'll learn:
Why even healthy marriages can experience betrayal
How law enforcement culture and shift work impact connection
What to do — and what not to do — right after an affair is discovered
The difference between trauma response and emotional recovery
Practical ways to rebuild safety, trust, and emotional intimacy
Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor supervisor, retired police spouse, and author of Hold the Line, this episode offers grounded, real-life insight for law enforcement couples working to recover from betrayal and rebuild their relationship.
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00:00 Intro — Why affairs are a taboo topic
04:10 Why infidelity happens even in good marriages
10:00 First steps after discovering an affair
18:00 How law enforcement culture impacts recovery
25:00 Rebuilding trust & managing triggers
33:00 Finding hope and connection again
