Welcome back to another insightful episode of "The Communicate & Connect Podcast," a dedicated space for improving relationship dynamics, especially for military and veteran families. In episode 29, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, an experienced military marriage counselor, sheds light on the essential skills needed to fight fair in relationships. Are you tired of disagreements that escalate or leave you feeling disconnected? This episode is tailored to equip you with strategies to transform conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection.
Dr. Polinsky begins by identifying the pitfalls of unfair fighting, such as making harmful generalizations, engaging in name-calling, and losing focus on the original issue. She discusses the detrimental effects of these behaviors on relationship health and demonstrates how they often lead to increased emotional distance. But fear not—Dr. Polinsky offers actionable solutions, guiding you through a structured approach for more constructive conflict resolution.
Her secret weapon? The "DEAR" method (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce), originating from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. This technique helps you communicate your needs without blame, ensuring both partners feel heard and valued. Dr. Polinsky emphasizes the importance of focusing on hurt feelings rather than anger and shares tips on how to effectively repair emotional wounds before jumping into problem-solving.
Whether you're just starting your marriage or have been together for years, learning how to fight fair can prevent the buildup of negative fighting habits and conserve emotional intimacy. Dr. Polinsky challenges you to practice the "DEAR" method in your next conversation and witness its positive impact firsthand.
Listen now to discover how adopting fair fighting techniques can improve communication, lead to healthier relationships, and foster lasting emotional bonds.
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