There's one thing I've always been intrigued to study, and I'm sure you have too: body language. The idea that people may be saying more than they realize; that you're uncovering their secrets. It's a really exciting thing. There are a lot of myths, though, in the study of body language. The first is that people can't lie with their bodies. Of course we can, and of course we all do. All it takes is being aware of what your body is doing, and know what other people may be reading.
For example, in conference rooms I'm often cold so I tend to cross my arms. I'm well aware that this can come off as aggressive or that I'm not caring, so I tend to force myself to keep them uncrossed. I'm essentially lying. When you try to read someone's body, you need to consider a lot of details - including the environment.
Our digital world also has in impact on our body language, and there are things that even a book written ten years ago can't take into account. Like when I'm speaking, a lot of times I see people with their heads down and looking at their phones. That can seem like they aren't paying attention. I started to notice that people would come up to ask questions and they were reading from their phones. It turned out people weren't distracting themselves, they were actually more engaged. They were taking notes on their phone. I was trying to read their body language, creating assumptions, and I couldn't have been more wrong.
To dive deeper into this topic for today's episode of Creative Warriors, I have brought in a body language expert: Mark Bowden. Mark discusses his new book, Truth and Lies, as well as the myths many of us have about body language. He dives into the complexity involved in this subject, and how you can accurately start trying to "read" people.
Download this episode today to learn the truth about what people's actions are telling you.
THE DON'T PANIC WARRIOR
"It's our job to manipulate. That's what causes us to be able to survive." - Mark Bowden
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