Discover why the same thinking patterns that create relationship problems also drive emotional eating. Through the story of Tammy, a program member stuck in a cycle of resentment and people-pleasing, learn how to stop living in other people's imaginary thoughts and start expressing your own needs clearly and kindly.
What You'll Learn
✔️The Resentment-Food Connection: Why unexpressed relationship frustration drives emotional eating
✔️Creating "Cases" Against People: How we decide what others think without asking them
✔️The Exhausting Cycle: Resentment → Rebellion → Guilt → People-pleasing → More resentment
✔️Story vs. Reality: Why Tammy felt guilt about quilting but not about attending a funeral
✔️Breaking Free: Practical tools to distinguish your thoughts from others' thoughts
Key Teaching Points
1. Same Patterns, Different Areas: The thinking that creates relationship problems also drives emotional eating - we create stories instead of dealing with reality.
2. Living in Others' Heads: When we try to manage others' feelings and predict their reactions, we lose access to our own wisdom.
3. The Lawyer Analogy: We create "cases" against people, spending all our mental energy looking for evidence to support our predetermined story.
4. You're Not Responsible for Others' Emotions: Your job is to express your needs kindly and clearly, not to manage how others respond.
Remember: You're not responsible for managing other's emotions. Their reaction is information about their ability to self-soothe, stay in your own emotional lane while being loving and kind!
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