Boredom and restlessness are some of the most misunderstood reasons we overeat. We tell ourselves we're bored, but often what's really happening is that we're avoiding something—desire, growth, pride, even happiness.
In this episode, Dara unpacks what boredom is actually protecting you from, why food becomes the default solution, and how to create a simple boredom protocol that doesn't rely on self-control or shame. This one might make you uncomfortable—but that's exactly why you need to hear it.
The definitions of bored vs. restless (and why the distinction matters)
The real question: Why do you let yourself believe you're bored?
What boredom is really protecting you from: happiness, success, feeling proud, confidence, connection
The core issue underneath boredom eating: WORTHINESS
The Bored Eating Protocol (5 simple steps)
Where "bored" sits on the Emotional Wheel (under "bad" → bored → indifferent/apathetic)
Alternative words for "I'm bored": unsatisfied, unhappy, confused, directionless, uncertain
Name it - "Oh, I'm telling myself I'm bored."
Question it - "Am I actually bored, or am I avoiding something?" (Go back to the definition: feeling weary because something is uninteresting or repetitive, a lack of stimulation)
Identify what you're avoiding - "What would I do right now if I believed I was worthy? If I didn't have to prove myself to anyone?"
Take one small action toward that thing - Not the whole project. Just one stitch. One phone call. One sentence.
Notice - How does it feel to move toward what you actually want instead of away from it?
Dara shares the memory of walking into her grandma's kitchen at age six during Christmas. There was a mountain of dishes—and her grandma was laughing and having a ball. No paper plates, just joy in the work.
That moment changed Dara's life: "You can take any job, any task, and decide if it's going to be awesome or not. I've never been bored in my life because I made that decision."
But her grandma didn't have the tools to deal with stress. She turned to Coke (calling it her "medicine"), food, and baking. She had a heart attack at 64.
This is why Dara does this work—so women don't have to keep beating themselves up and feeling trapped in their own bodies.
Happiness - What if you pursued what you really wanted?
Success - What if you actually finished that quilt and entered the show?
Feeling proud - What if you achieved something and had to own it?
Confidence - What if you believed in yourself?
Connection - What if you put yourself out there?
Three Ways to Work with Dara:
Join Love Yourself Thin Membership - The full program with ongoing support and community
Emotional Eating Mini-Class - Free Masterclass
Free 20-Minute Consult - Book a call to identify what's blocking you (Dara shares that one woman got so much clarity in just 20 minutes from YouTube)
Watch this episode on YouTube!
Episode 241: Emotional Eating When You Don't Even Know Why You Ate - The most mysterious type of emotional eating, where we pull everything together.
