If I had__________
I would do_______
Then I would be_______
For example: If I had more time, I would play with the kids, and then I would be a great parent.
This thinking can hold you back because it forces you to wait for conditions to be right before you allow yourself to be who or how you really want to be.
Start from a state of mind in which you believe yourself to already be as you want and let your actions flow from you believe yourself to be.
I am_________
Because I do __________
Because I have_______________
For example: I am a great parent because I do play with my kids on a regular basis because I have made time to be available to them.
References:
Have-Do-Be: http://www.squidoo.com/BE_DO_HAVE_Principle
The Be-Do-Have Paradigm: http://www.taketheleap.com/create.html