Today I am joined by Sarah Parker to continue our discussion about controlling our surroundings, changing and adapting to what is instead of what we believe it should be, and how this shapes our relationship to food and our bodies.
In this part, we talk about the word "should" and why it is detrimental to your journey to self-love. How do the rules we impose on the world around us affect our view of what can be achieved? What can you do to overcome these barriers?
Topics covered in this episode:
- Why "should" is the worst swear word you can say.
- Understanding that the world can't always adhere to what you think it should be.
- Why the word "should" is an alarm bell for living in rules created by your mind.
- How to break these thought patterns and rules you have imposed on yourself.
- How to recognize the "should" problem.
- Creating the invisible rules we use to govern our lives and how these affect our worldview.
- What to do when the "should" keeps coming up even after doing the work.
- How the "should" dilemma keeps us stuck.
- Creating insight into what is instead of what should be.
- Why resisting what is causes difficulty.
- The problem with perfectionism.
- Learning to set aside black-and-white thinking.
- Avoiding passivity in your life and actions.
- The art of self-sabotage and why we do it.
- Being open with yourself about your reasons for not doing things.
- Understanding that the average body does not necessarily mean the healthy body.
- All-or-nothing mindsets and learning to see the grey areas.
- Learning to live with uncertainty and to do what's right for you.
- Why this is a constant process and takes time.
- Trusting and understanding your body.
