I'm coming out on the other side of an extremely difficult and painful year. Like many of us, we could not have anticipated the fallout that is still to come from a pandemic and social unrest. But, if you had told me that the most difficult pain for me has come from not being able to openly share my pain in front of trusted people in my life, I would have called you a liar. Let's get rooted in how to untangle ourselves from being in denial about our own pain, how to dismount from people who don't have the capacity to hold your pain, and how to do so unapologetically.