New York State 1830
Sometimes I think the argument goes like this: “if I can’t quickly decide what category to put you in, how can I behave in an appropriate manner rapidly? That would mean I’m at risk in case you are due deference, or I might miss out on a chance of food or sex. Therefore you making it hard for me to judge is a threat for which you must pay.”
I think I’d prefer to not judge and to not decide anything on these lines but interact on an ongoing basis as a thinking, feeling, individual.
