What happens when a respectfully monogamous therapist sits down with one of the most outspoken voices in modern sex therapy? In this episode, Daniel Dashnaw talks with Dr. Chris Donahue, psychotherapist, media personality, and author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines, about what it really means to “deprogram” desire.
Together, they explore how culture, capitalism, trauma, and shame shape our erotic blueprints, and how conscious relationships can transform those inherited scripts. Donahue discusses how his views on monogamy have evolved over time, the balance between freedom and commitment, and why both can serve as crucibles for growth when chosen consciously.
Daniel and Chris also dive deep into the tension between attachment and differentiation, how to stay connected to another without losing yourself. Along the way, they confront the cultural fetishization of safety, the developmental work of risk and truth-telling, and how growth often begins right where comfort ends.
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Dr. Chris Donahue is a psychotherapist and the author of Sex Outside the Lines and Rebel Love. His work challenges mainstream ideas about monogamy, desire, and moralized sexuality, inviting people to cultivate more authentic, embodied, and compassionate forms of connection.
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