Guiding Question:
What are the hidden dangers that sabotage a man's adventure—and are you letting any of them define you?
Key Takeaways:
Beware the “Adventure Busters”:
Robert Lewis introduces the concept of “Adventure Busters”—internal and external forces that derail a man’s pursuit of a meaningful life. These include secret sins, unresolved wounds, or culturally normalized behaviors that quietly erode a man’s soul and impact.
The Double Life:
One of the most common and destructive adventure busters. Many men compartmentalize their lives, presenting a polished exterior while hiding secret struggles. This leads to fragmentation, isolation, and eventual collapse.
Living two lives is exhausting.
It robs men of authenticity, joy, and real intimacy.
The only solution is courageous honesty—first with God, then with safe others.
Sexual Shortcuts:
Robert Lewis directly confronts the destructive influence of pornography and casual sexual behavior.
These “shortcuts” promise intimacy and excitement, but deliver shame and disconnection.
Pornography is not just a private issue—it affects how men see women, relationships, and themselves.
Sexual purity is not about repression but restoration—recovering God’s good design for sex.
God’s Design for Sex:
It is good, powerful, and purposeful.
Meant to be expressed in covenantal love—marriage.
Misuse leads to wounds, while rightly ordered sex brings deep joy and unity.
Shame Is a Lie:
Lewis makes clear: the goal is not to heap guilt, but to extend grace and freedom. Every man has struggles. What matters is whether you stay stuck in silence or step forward into healing.
Five Practical Tools for Restoration:
Personal honesty – Acknowledge the problem without rationalizing it.
Accountability – Regular check-ins with trustworthy men.
Boundaries – Proactively avoid triggers and access points.
Spiritual renewal – Prayer, Scripture, and surrender.
Vision – See purity not as avoidance but as a greater “yes” to joy and impact.
Setting Up for Part 2:
This is part one of a two-part teaching. Lewis hints that next week will cover more adventure busters—wounds, lies, and unresolved issues from a man’s past that continue to shape his present.
Key Scripture References:
Ephesians 5:11–14 – Exposing deeds of darkness and walking in light.
Matthew 5:8 – “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”
Proverbs 4:23 – Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
1 Thessalonians 4:3–5 – God’s will: sanctification and sexual purity.
James 5:16 – Confess your sins to one another and be healed.
Romans 12:1–2 – Present your bodies as a living sacrifice; be transformed by renewing your mind.
