If you’ve ever thought, "If I can’t do it the right way, I won’t do it at all," this episode is for you.
Today, I’m unpacking how all-or-nothing thinking quietly keeps us stuck — not because we don’t care, but because we care so much that anything less than ideal feels like failure.
I share a recent experience at the gym where my workout didn’t look impressive on paper (no sweat, barely elevated heart rate, only twenty minutes from the moment I walked in the door until I walked out) yet ended up being one of the most important workouts I’ve done recently. Not because of what it did for my body, but because of what it did for my relationship with myself.
This episode invites you to consider:
🩵 Why all-or-nothing thinking feels justified (and even responsible)
🩵 How unrealistic expectations stall momentum in personal habits
🩵 The way rigid standards spill over into our relationships with others
🩵 Why keeping small promises builds more trust than doing things “right”
🩵 How redefining what counts can create real, sustainable change
I also share a few gentle experiments you can try this week to help you stay engaged even when things don’t look the way you hoped they would.
Because real change happens when we keep showing up, even imperfectly.
If you’re ready to start making progress through continued presence, I’m offering 4 free sessions for 7 new clients through the end of January 2026. Email info@allyssya.coach to schedule a complimentary consultation.
