Have you ever felt like love is something you have to earn—by doing more, being better, or holding it all together?
In this opening episode of a new Love & Relationships miniseries on The Heart AF Podcast, Chelsea VanBuskirk invites millennial moms to question everything they’ve been taught about love, worthiness, and connection.
This episode explores how many women unconsciously place conditions on love—both in their relationships and with themselves—by performing, overgiving, people-pleasing, or abandoning their authentic needs in order to feel chosen, accepted, or secure.
Chelsea breaks down how these patterns often begin in childhood, how they show up in long-term relationships and marriage, and why conditional love slowly erodes intimacy, polarity, and emotional connection. Through personal stories and relatable examples, she reveals how hyper-independence, control, and constant “doing” can block a woman’s ability to receive love, support, and partnership.
You’ll reflect on questions like:
Am I performing for love instead of being loved for who I truly am?
Am I placing expectations and conditions on my partner without realizing it?
Have I lost my softness, receptivity, or feminine energy in my relationship?
Am I open to receiving love in the ways my partner is able to give it?
This episode is a gentle but powerful invitation to return to authenticity, self-alignment, and unconditional self-love—because the way you love yourself sets the energetic tone for every relationship in your life.
If you’re a mom who feels emotionally disconnected, stuck in resentment, or exhausted from doing everything yourself, this episode will help you slow down, gain awareness, and begin shifting how you show up in love—starting with you.
This is the beginning of a deeper conversation about feminine energy, healing relationship patterns, emotional safety, and creating partnerships rooted in truth instead of performance.
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