As an offshoot of my ongoing Heated Rivalry hyperfixation, I, Alyssa Zimmerman, LCSW, am joined by sexologist Dr. Samia Khan for a candid conversation about queer and neurodivergent sexuality. We talk about the stigma around different types of pleasure, why the prostate has a PR problem, and how shame tends to ruin perfectly good curiosity. We also get into consent, communication, aftercare, kink, ethical non monogamy, and why different generations are having very different conversations about sex. Along the way, Dr. Khan shares how sex became both her professional field and a full blown special interest, and we retire a few myths that have been confidently incorrect for decades.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
03:11 Queer and Neurodivergent Sex
07:23 Anal Sex Myths and Realities
17:58 Autism and Sexuality
24:41 The Emotional Responsibilites of Sex
28:37 Consent, Substance Use, and Neurodivergence
31:04 Navigating Vulnerability and Attachment Trauma
37:31 Sex Education and Queer Relationships
45:28 Ethical Non-Monogamy and Kink
50:23 Concluding Thoughts and Resources
