Kids can’t learn new skills when their nervous system is flooded. In this episode, Suz and Kenzie show you how to regulate first and coach second using our MONSTER cue: My Only Need: Start To Emotionally Regulate. You’ll learn a faith-filled, brain-wise plan for toddler tantrums, big-kid blowups, and teen flare-ups—without losin;g your own peace.
You’ll Learn
- Thermostat vs. thermometer parenting: How to set the room’s emotional “temperature,” not just read it.
- The MONSTER check: A simple in-the-moment phrase that grounds you and your child.
- Storm vs. sunshine timing: Correct for safety in the storm; train skills in the calm.
- Age-by-age scripts for toddlers, big kids, and teens that lower intensity fast.
- Pick-your-battle triage: Safety, maturity, and “my-issue” filters so you don’t fight every fight.
- Reset tools that work: 4/6 breathing, colors game, cold water splash, squeeze/hug items, wall pushups/jumping jacks, worship/quiet song.
- Regulate → Repair → Rehearse so growth sticks.
- Faith integration: “Peace lives in me—let’s go find it,” plus short prayers that invite the Holy Spirit into hard moments.
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” — Isaiah 26:3
(See also Galatians 5:22–23 for the fruit of the Spirit and Philippians 4:7 for God’s peace.)
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