In this episode of Delusional Optimism, Dr. B dives into the controversial topic of spanking and asks the question ‘is spanking harmful?’. She talks about the negative effects of spanking, how it causes adverse childhood experiences, and what you can instead do to be a better parent.
Listen in to learn what research has shown over the years about spanking and the three categories of parents that exist. You will also learn the importance of having an education system that teaches parents about child development.
“The reason that spanking doesn’t work is because it creates pain, it creates fear, and it creates confusion in children.” [24:32]
What You Will Learn:
- [0:32] Intro
- [1:14] How 50 years of research shows spanking is harmful and the reasons that people give for doing it.
- [7:32] How society has normalized spanking across the board making it acceptable.
- [10:23] Research has established that spanked children exhibit aggression towards others and also leads to more anxiety and depression in adults and teenagers.
- [15:46] The three categories of parents- the best parenting strategy is being consistent and predictable to form the same with your children.
- [20:19] The importance of supporting both children and parents especially during these hard times that everyone is together.
- [22:15] Learning to choose the new information and rectify how our parents did things. Learning from our mistakes and make changes based on new information and science.
- [27:47] Building an education system that focuses on resiliency and teaches parents and people about children at different stages and ages.
- [32:00] How to reconnect, repairing, and reconstitute with children when they do something that calls for a spanking.
- [35:42] How to teach children to find their social-emotional strength over their physical strength.
- [37:10] Purchase a child development book and learn.
- [38:22] How to set up a purpose chore system rather than spanking.
Relevant Links:
Email: contact@drbconnections.com
Website: https://www.drbconnections.com/
Books Mentioned:
- Touchpoints: Birth to 3: Your Child's Emotional and Behavioral Development by T. Berry Brazelton
- Raising Good Children by Thomas Lickona
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