In this deeply human and illuminating conversation, Elayne Kalila welcomes longtime sister-priestess, teacher, and author Elana Auerbach to speak about her newly released book, The Sure Thing — a radically simple, devotion-based weekly pleasure practice designed to restore intimacy, trust, and connection in long-term relationships and within the self.
Woven through this episode is an honest exploration of menopause, mismatched desire, nervous system overwhelm, and the quiet grief many couples carry when intimacy becomes fraught or uncertain.
Rather than offering another “fix” or technique, The Sure Thing reframes pleasure as a relational sanctuary — one rooted in safety, presence, responsiveness, and mutual devotion.
This episode speaks tenderly to those navigating long partnerships, midlife transitions, and the deep longing to feel alive, desired, and at home in the body again.
In this episode:
A compassionate reframe of desire and intimacy
Language to talk about pleasure without pressure
A practical, gentle ritual that calms the nervous system
Permission to begin where you are — without fixing or forcing
A lived example of intimacy restored through devotion, not effort
Free Gift from Elana
Elana is offering listeners a beautiful guided audio journey:
https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self
A somatic, imaginative journey to reconnect with the part of you that knows exactly what you want — even if she’s been quiet for a while.
📖 Get the Book
The Sure Thing
Available in paperback and digital formats.
👉 Visit: surethingexperiment.com
