In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith takes a deep dive into the hidden patterns driving self-sabotage for women who grew up as the "good girl," the "helper," or the "responsible one." If you’ve ever felt burned out from constantly putting others first, struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or negative self-talk, this episode is for you. Elyssa explains how childhood roles shape adult behaviors, introduces the concept of the "family mobile," and unveils the hidden force working against your best efforts: the inner rebel.
Key Takeaways:
The "Good Girl" Identity: If you were the responsible child, always helping and keeping the peace, you likely developed habits that now contribute to burnout, procrastination, and self-doubt.
The Family Mobile Effect: Families function like a mobile hanging over a crib—when one person shifts, the whole unit adjusts. As a child, you learned to stay in your role to keep the family balanced, often at the cost of your own needs.
How Thought Patterns Form: Your survival brain adapted by instilling beliefs like "I must keep others happy to be safe" and "My needs don’t matter." These subconscious scripts now fuel self-sabotaging behaviors.
The Inner Rebel: A hidden part of you that pushes back when you’ve over-given and ignored your own needs for too long. It manifests as revenge bedtime procrastination, doom scrolling, perfectionism, and resistance to structure.
Breaking Free: Recognizing these patterns is the first step to reclaiming your time, energy, and identity. Elyssa shares practical ways to start shifting your mindset and stepping into a healthier, more balanced version of yourself.
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