In this episode of Minding Mine, I sit down with love and relationship coach Leah Mitchell for a deeply honest conversation about trauma, shame, safety, and the invisible patterns so many women carry into their relationships.
Leah opens up about the accident that changed her life at seventeen, the secondary trauma that followed, and how years of trying to earn love shaped her dating choices, her self-worth, and her nervous system. We talk about the ways childhood conditioning shows up in adulthood, why shame becomes a survival response, and how experiences we are never taught to process can turn into patterns we don’t even recognize as our own.
Leah also shares the turning point in her healing journey—how neuroscience, emotional regulation, and kinetic divination helped her reconnect to her own body, break destructive cycles, and finally feel safe enough to pursue healthy love. We explore how trauma impacts dating, why women often feel they must “earn” affection, how cortisol and stress affect romantic compatibility, and what it looks like to build relationships rooted in honesty, vulnerability, and mutual respect.
This conversation is full of raw truths, powerful reframes, and reminders that loving yourself well is the foundation for calling in the love you truly desire. Whether you’re single, dating, or partnered, Leah’s insights will help you understand yourself more deeply—and begin healing the patterns that have kept you feeling stuck, small, or at war with your own heart.
In this episode, we talk about:
• The accident that reshaped Leah’s identity, patterns, and sense of safety
• Why “secondary trauma” from loved ones can feel more painful than the trauma itself
• How shame becomes a subconscious survival strategy
• Using neuroscience and somatic tools to rewire relationship patterns
• Why many women feel they need to “earn” love
• How cortisol impacts compatibility, chemistry, and connection
• What safe, emotionally available love actually feels like
• How our healing impacts the next generation
• The legacy we leave when our children watch us be loved—and love ourselves
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Podcast: The Goddess of Love
Free Course: The Dating Strategy
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