On this episode I have Michael Muscari who is an
entrepreneur, master NLP practioner and is currently obtaining his Reology
certificate.
Michael has participated on several retreats with Jake and
Hannah Eagle who are the founders of Reology – a practice aimed at improving
communication and intimacy between human beings.
Throughout the podcast, Michael and I discuss various topics
around communication and relationships. This podcast will provide you with
valuable insights into communication that can be applied at work, your
family, friends and in intimate relationships.
Through a heightened awareness to how we interpret our day
to day events and the way we communicate with others, we can begin shifting our
lives into a richer and healthier place. This is one of my favourite podcasts
to date which you can notice by the long notable section.
Mike and Krystal run one-on-one workshops to help improve
communication amongst couples. Mike can be found on Facebook @ Michael Muscari.
Notable Sections in the Podcast
3:10 – A 7 day personal growth retreat - Mike’s first
Reology lab experience
7:45 – How to communicate more effectively with others
8:00 – Making meaning of our lives
& making meaning of reality
10:20 – How Mike and Krystal effectively manage disagreements
in their relationship – a concrete example
12:45 – Effective communication begins by talking about
yourself, how you feel instead of projecting how you feel onto someone
13:00 – Mindfulness practice for speaking
20:20 – The importance of having boundaries and agreements
21:20 – How much time do you guys spend on your agreements
and what’s important for each other?
22:45 – "I want a partner who will motivate me, someone who
will fuel me."
24:00 – Dating at first should be fun little adventure interviews.
Essentially you’re getting to know whether you want to commit being in a more
serious relationship with them. Once you know it’s going to be more serious,
then you can start making these agreements.
26:40 – How do you bring up agreements and boundaries in
your current relationship, that is starting to get a little more serious but
you haven’t created any boundaries yet? How can you do this in a way that is
light hearted and won’t scare your partner away?
29:30 – How much time do you spend on defining your
boundaries?
29:35 – "Usually right up front everyone is working really
hard on boundaries. As time goes by, we forget and we need reminders, we need
constant work on these things."
29:45 – Making agreements and boundaries isn’t a one time
deal. Mike and Krystal review their agreements once a month. Open communication
is key to a happy relationship.
31:00 – How Mike and Krystal deal with disconnection
32:45 – “The longer that we go without talking about what’s
bothering us, the more fuel that problem gets, the more internal it gets, the
bigger that problem becomes.”
34:45 – Ask for what you want. We can’t expect others to be
mind readers. We have to ask for what we want.
37:45 – “Most problems reside in the past or the future.
Very few exist in the moment. Most problems are stories we’re telling
ourselves.”
38:05 – How do you find your ideal partner?
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