Episode 22 — Boundaries: Protecting Yourself Without Guilt
Boundaries are one of those topics that most women know they need, but may not feel truly confident doing. In this warm and practical episode, Kristen shares her own personal journey of learning boundaries, and the moment that changed everything.
The most important reframe in this episode: a boundary is not about controlling another person. It is about protecting yourself. It is about letting someone know what you are okay with, how you expect to be treated.
This episode is practical and personal, anchored in Scripture, and closes with four real-life scripts you can use immediately.
In this episode you will discover:
Kristen’s personal journey of learning boundaries from scratch as an adult
The most important reframe: boundaries protect you, they do not control others
The difference between a boundary and a wall
Why setting a boundary is an act of self-respect and not selfishness
What Proverbs 4:23 (Amplified) says about watching over your heart with all diligence
What Matthew 5:37 says about letting your yes be yes and your no be no
How Jesus himself modeled healthy boundaries throughout his ministry
Four real-life situations with actual scripts you can use today
Why you do not need the other person’s permission or agreement for your boundary to be valid
Why it gets easier with practice and why that is worth starting today
Four Practical Boundary Scripts:
With a friend who oversteps — addressing broken confidence and unsolicited advice with warmth and clarity
With a family member who crosses a line — setting a standard with love and following through
In a work situation — protecting your time outside of work hours professionally and without apology
With someone who disrespects your time — addressing chronic lateness and cancellations with grace and self-respect
Scriptures referenced in this episode (Amplified Bible):
Proverbs 4:23 — Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.
Matthew 5:37 — Let your yes be yes and your no be no.
Mentioned in this episode:
Private 1:1 Coaching with Kristen — contact@kristenivanov.com
Connect with Kristen on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn
Visit kristenivanov.com
It will feel uncomfortable at first. Do it anyway. You are worth protecting.
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