“If we only go after goals that we have evidence of our ability to achieve, then we’ll never conquer new frontiers,” says host Leslie Randolph. This is why we need to believe in ourselves ahead of time. So many of us, when pursuing a new goal, get caught in what she calls ‘a cycle of sabotage.’ Since we don’t have a past example to prove that we can achieve this goal, we get caught in a feeling of hopelessness, which means we don’t try and thus fulfill our own prophecy of impossibility. Thoughts lead to feelings which lead to action—or inaction.
On today’s episode of Why Didn’t They Tell Us, Leslie explains why our brain’s natural function of protecting us can backfire on our success, and what we can do to move past our “as-soon-as” thinking and believe in ourselves even while we’re waiting for evidence that we can do it.
Are you ready to go confidently in the direction of your dreams? Today Leslie will help you gain the self- confidence to take your first step forward.
Quotes
- “So many of us have goals and dreams that we have no evidence of our ability to achieve or proof of possibility. And if you want something that you’ve never had before, something you’ve never achieved before, then you have no reason to believe it’s possible, right? If we can’t look back to our past for evidence that we’re capable of doing it, we have no reason to believe that we can, that it’s possible.” (4:59 | Leslie Randolph)
- “If we only go after goals that we have evidence of our ability to achieve, then we’ll never conquer new frontiers. We may never change and we’ll likely never try. That’s the biggest problem with not believing in ourselves. It stops us from seeing what’s possible, and more importantly, going after it.” (5:56 | Leslie Randolph)
- “Your feelings are your fuel. How you feel will determine what you do and don’t do. Our feelings drive all of our actions.” (7:00 | Leslie Randolph)
- “You just have to make the choice to believe in you.” (10:55 | Leslie Randolph)
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