RESOURCES
- Leslie's Quick Start Guide
- Brad Hambrick's Blog: Why Is It So Hard to Have Constructive Conversations About Abuse?
Church Cares - American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
- Equip
Show Notes: Why Churches Resist Abuse Ministry
Introduction
Have you ever wondered why churches sometimes hesitate or even resist addressing abuse within their congregations? In today’s episode, Leslie Vernick unpacks this difficult but vital question. She shares her years of experience working with churches and individuals to create safer spaces for those harmed by abuse. Whether you’ve felt dismissed by your church, or you’re striving to bring change, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and practical steps forward. Together, we’ll explore why this resistance exists, what’s changing, and how we can be part of the solution.
Key Takeaways
1. The History of Church Resistance to Abuse Ministry
- In the past, many churches believed abuse wasn’t a problem among Christians, leading to unsafe environments for children and vulnerable members.
- Change was driven largely by legal and financial accountability rather than a proactive desire for safety.
- Churches must recognize the reality of abuse and embrace preventative measures as part of their mission to love and protect their people.
2. The Misconceptions That Fuel Resistance
- Many church leaders empathize more with the fear of false accusations than with victims’ lived experiences, despite false reports being rare.
- Misunderstandings about what constitutes abuse—such as emotional or sexual abuse within marriage—prevent churches from addressing it effectively.
3. The Role of Leadership in Healthy Relationships
- Biblical headship is about servant leadership, not power or control. Healthy leaders use their influence to empower and uplift others, reflecting Christ’s example.
- Submission, as taught in Scripture, is a voluntary act rooted in mutual love and respect—not coercion or oppression.
4. Why Individual Healing Must Precede Marriage Work
- Starting with marriage counseling in abusive situations often leads to failure. Individual healing for both parties is essential before addressing the relationship.
- Churches can support this process by encouraging personal growth and connecting individuals with appropriate resources.
5. Resources to Equip Churches for Better Ministry
- Free tools like the Church Cares Curriculum provide essential training for addressing abuse.
- Leslie’s EQUIP group offers ongoing support and education for pastors, counselors, and leaders seeking to handle abuse well.
A Personal Invitation
If you’re a church leader, counselor, or someone who wants to advocate for healthier, safer relationships in your community, take the next step. Visit LeslieVernick.com to learn more about EQUIP and access resources designed to empower leaders and protect the vulnerable.
Change is possible when we open our hearts to God’s guidance and truly listen to the pain of those around us. If you’ve been hurt by the church or feel overwhelmed as a leader, know that God sees you and desires healing and growth.
Listen to the full episode now and share it with your pastor or church leader! Together, we can foster safer, healthier communities.
