SHOWNOTES FOR MELINDA HEATH PODCAST “LIFESTYLE OF DAILY JOY”
EPISODE #12 TITLED “HOW TO STOP HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF”
My thought and questions to you as well as to myself are….
You only get so much precious time here on this earth so…. How would you like to use it? And what type of energy would you like to create and bring to it?
Melinda Heath
Welcome, welcome, my beautiful souls TO “Lifestyle of Daily Joy” episode #12 “How to Stop Hiding Your True Self”
I am Melinda Heath and are super excited about today because I will be sharing about a subject that is very…. dear to my heart, one that deep down, my spirit speaks to-- and in my opinion feel that if many of us were to have a conversation with each other, we would learn we have something in common, that you are able to relate to this just as I am.
Okay… If you haven’t already go ahead and grab your favorite nutritional snack and beverage as well as a pen or pencil and some paper because this message today is completely packed with so much information you may hear something you would like to notate- and we will dive right on in.
In episode #11 “How Loving Yourself Authentically Looks Like” we covered what authenticity is and what living an authentic life looks like. In a recent episode “things that steal joy” we talked about what hinders, steals, and robs us of joy and worry was one of those things, so, in this episode we are going to be focusing on how worry ties into “how to stop hiding your true self” because of the things that we worry about. And throughout the episode I will be touching on how it plays into self-care, well-being, joy. Additionally, how it undermines our authenticity, in the sense of placing our worth in the thought processes of others that can affect our decision making, and the very things we appreciate about ourselves. Essentially, how worry can cause us to question, compare, shrink, and ultimately no longer like or to even know who we are. So, we are going to discuss the person we don’t allow others to see, the person we don’t allow others to experience, the person we keep hidden and locked away deep within us, our truth.
The exercises for the previous episodes as well as today's
The exercises last week, you wrote down all the things you feel are hindering your joy, stealing your joy and robbing you of joy.
The things that you tell yourself positive or negative.
The things you feel true to be about yourself or the ones you hear that you feel aren’t true of you.
And this week if you haven’t done it already, I would like to encourage you to write down why these things are hindering you, what has taken place for joy to be stolen from you, and why you feel those things have robbed you of joy.
I would also like to encourage you to write down why you feel those things are true or are not true of you.
And then this week the exercises entail getting out more paper, on one piece make two columns and write down one side all of your believed abilities, your talents, your gifts, everything you know you are capable of doing and in the second column write down all the things you feel you aren’t able to do.
Then take some time to think about why you feel you can and why you feel you cannot do these certain things and then write your why’s down.
Then consider out of what you can do, the things you feel you do well like wow I really nailed that or if you feel it is something you aren’t good at is it because you are comparing yourself to others or you just don’t really know how to do it and write this information down.
For the second exercise today, I would like to encourage you to write down on another piece of paper making a column on one side
Write all the things you like and love about yourself and in the other column write down all the things you do not like or love or would like to change about yourself.
Then take some time to reflect on these things, consider your reasoning why you do and why you don’t and then write them down.
The third exercise for you today has to do with your fears
On a piece of paper write all of your fears.
And then take some time to think about them and write down why you fear those things.
These are just for you, you don’t need to share this with anyone, for your own knowledge, your homework, for you figuring out the type of life you are currently building, the type of life you are living as you are working on creating your joy and building your foundation. This is a picture that you are able to maybe say I don’t want to do that anymore. I do want to continue doing this. I want to do better with this.
The purpose of my encouraging you to do these writing exercises is for you to be able to build your confidence if you feel you need to do that. To understand the limiting beliefs you may have about yourself by being able to see your thoughts in front of you. The purpose of getting them out of your mind and onto paper as there is just something about doing this. And I would really like to encourage you to reflect on what these things are true of you because just maybe all these things you originally did not think you were good at otherwise. To be able to see the things you do not like about yourself and why. To possibly discover it either is because people have said something like this to you or about you- or is it because it is from you internally something you personally do not like. So, that you can see where your liking, loving, disliking of yourself is coming from. By writing all these things down may help bring clarity to you.
These exercises are meant to help you get to the bottom of who you are, what you are about, what you bring to the table, what you feel is really good about you, and it gives you a chance to see who you really are as a person, how you operate. They can help paint a picture of your true authentic self.
So, for today, this is the exercise for you answering these questions and writing your answers down, as it helps to see what your brain is thinking. What does your life look or feel like when your self-care is fulfilled? What does it look like when your joy is overflowing? When is your well-being is optimal? What do you feel will be the first step for you to achieve any one of these things? What types of things are hindering you from being able to create this for your life? What types of things are in the way from you being able to design what you want for your life? What is in the way for you in being able to live the life that you can envision for yourself? What is it that you are holding back, that you are suppressing about yourself, the part that you are pushing down…what is that authentic part of you? What is that part of you that we do not allow others to see? What are the parts of you that you don’t allow people to experience because you worry fear of being judged? What steps can YOU take to stop hiding your true self?
The reference for the movie I mention in the episode
Legally Blonde Legally Blonde. 2001.
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By email
Melinda@lifestyleofdailyjoy.com
My landing page
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