Dating from Secure, Avoidant, and Everything In-Between:
Dating isn’t just about finding the right person — it’s about showing up as the right version of yourself. In this episode, Michele + River pull back the curtain on their different attachment journeys.
River shares what it’s like to move from anxious to avoidant, and now into a more secure space, while navigating the unpredictable waters of online dating — including the lingering instinct to think, “I need you to like me more than I like you, so I know it’s real.”
Michele opens up about dating as a securely attached woman who once lived in the grip of codependency — where love meant over-giving and proving her worth — and how that transformation has made dating calmer, clearer, and a whole lot more fun.
Together, they explore:
The moments that signal a shift in attachment style
How old patterns still whisper in new relationships
The difference between protecting your peace and pushing people away
Why secure attachment feels like freedom with roots
Whether you’re swiping right, newly single, or just attachment-style curious, this conversation is a candid, compassionate look at how self-awareness changes how we date — and why the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you build with yourself.
