What Is the Inner Work of Love?
What is the Inner Work of Love—and how can one understanding change the trajectory of your marriage?
In this episode, I share the story behind my book, The Inner Work of Love: 10 Understandings for Lasting Relationships, and why it felt like a true download from the Universe. After decades of personal development, yoga teaching, and nearly 40 years of marriage, I felt called to focus specifically on marriage and intimate relationships.
Rather than offering techniques or quick fixes, this work is about Understandings—deep insights into how humans and relationships actually work. Understanding something changes the minute-by-minute choices we make in love.
I walk you through all 10 chapters of the book, including:
Healthy You, Healthy Us
The power of thought and how it shapes relationships
Identity, inner knowing, and self-study
Emotional attachment, capacity, and nervous system awareness
The unconscious ways we sabotage love
Conscious relationship habits
The deep human longing to be seen and heard
Staying grounded in the inner work
Living love as a way of being, not just a feeling
Each chapter includes reflection questions, making the book a practical guide as well as a philosophical one.
If you’re feeling a shift in your marriage and don’t know where to start, begin with the Midlife Marriage Check-In, or visit my website to book a Discovery Call—a safe, no-pressure conversation about where you are and where you want to be.
