After betrayal, many people believe healing means doing more:
more processing, more understanding, more effort, more tolerance.
But what if that belief is what’s keeping you stuck?
In this episode, Luke Shillings introduces essentialism as a recovery lens, not as a productivity tool, but as a way to stabilise, simplify, and heal without burning yourself out.
You’ll learn why betrayal creates mental and emotional overload, how “trying harder” often backfires, and what actually must be in place for healing to be possible at all. This episode helps you separate what’s essential from what’s just noise, and why subtraction, not addition, is often the real work.
If healing feels overwhelming, it’s often because you’re carrying too much, not because you’re doing it wrong.
Through one-to-one coaching and The After the Affair Collective, Luke helps people identify what’s essential, stabilise first, and rebuild with intention rather than urgency.
Learn more at lifecoachluke.com or reach out directly.
You don’t need to do everything.
You need to do what matters.
