From Change to Transformation: Reconnecting to Your True Self
In this powerful continuation of our conversation on change, Patricia shares a transformative poem titled "The Light" by Helen Amery, from the groundbreaking book Poetry for Coaching – Transformation Through Verse. This episode explores how embracing transformation over superficial change leads to lasting growth, self-awareness, emotional resilience, and reconnection to your true self. Patricia dives into neuroscience, mindset, habit formation, and the power of the Reticular Activating System (RAS), and uncovers how mental fitness coaching offers a more sustainable, compassionate path to inner transformation.
Key Takeaways:
- The Power of the Brain: Learn how the RAS (Reticular Activating System) filters your reality and reinforces what you believe — both limiting and empowering.
- From Change to Transformation: Why change is external, but transformation is internal — a return to your authentic self.
- Mental Fitness & Positive Intelligence: How shifting from self-sabotage (saboteurs) to inner wisdom (Sage) creates sustainable mental wellbeing.
- Identity & Beliefs: Rethinking how you use the phrase “I AM” and breaking free from conditioned identities like people-pleaser, perfectionist, procrastinator.
- The Habit Myth: Busting the "21-day" myth - real habit formation takes on average 66 days, and up to 254, according to research.
- Resilience Metaphor: Trees thrive by bending with the wind. So can we, through learning flexibility, self-awareness, and inner connection, via mental fitness.
- Coaching Equation: “Performance = Potential – Interference” (Tim Gallwey) - it's not about becoming better, it's about removing the inner blocks that are interfering.
Science-Based Tools & Concepts:
- Neuroplasticity
- Confirmation Bias
- Reticular Activating System (RAS)
- Subconscious Conditioning
- Self-Sabotage vs. Inner Wisdom
- Positive Reinforcement & Growth Mindset
Mentioned Tools & Frameworks:
- The R Coaching Framework:
o Recognise your patterns
o Realise which serves and what is interfering
o Reconnect to your Sage true essence, and Release
o Thrive through inner Sage
o Shift out of survival mode
o Build lasting transformation and resilience
Quotes:
"People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits, and their habits decide their futures." — F.M. Alexander
“All that I know is that I know nothing”. Socrates
Resources Mentioned:
- Book; Poetry for Coaching: Transformation Through Verse (Creative Coaching Collective, Nov 2024)
- Research; Phillippa Lally's Habit Formation Study (2010) – Link to Study
- Book; The Inner Game of Tennis – Tim Gallwey
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