In this episode of Mind Over Masculinity, host Sana sits down with Tommy Kilpatrick for a raw and layered conversation on men’s mental health, societal expectations, and what it means to be a man in today’s shifting culture. Tommy shares his lived experience of divorce, homelessness by choice, faith, and rebuilding life in the Philippines. From navigating credit card lawsuits to confronting systemic bias, he explores how men silently carry emotional debt alongside financial pressures.
The conversation dives into how masculinity has evolved since World War II, why men struggle with identity and belonging, and how modern dynamics—family breakdowns, changing roles, economic pressures—shape men’s mental wellness. Tommy also shares his vision of creating a retreat in Argentina where men relearn survival skills and reconnect with strength and purpose.
This episode is not about easy answers—it’s about asking hard questions on resilience, healing, and redefining what manhood can mean.
About the Guest
Tommy Kilpatrick is an advocate for men’s mental wellness, blending personal lived experience with bold perspectives on masculinity, resilience, and cultural shifts. Having faced systemic battles, financial hardship, and reinvention, he now supports men in finding strength through honesty, community, and purpose.
Key Takeaways
Men often carry emotional debt as heavily as financial debt, impacting mental health.
Divorce and systemic biases can leave men feeling invisible and unsupported.
Faith, humility, and acts of kindness became central to Tommy’s healing journey.
Masculinity has shifted post–World War II, with fewer role models and changing societal expectations.
Economic and cultural shifts have altered the role of “provider,” creating identity conflict for men.
Tommy proposes a rite-of-passage style retreat in Argentina to help men reconnect with skills, resilience, and brotherhood.
Conversations on masculinity need nuance—acknowledging both systemic challenges and evolving definitions of equality.
Family, belonging, and supportive relationships remain critical to men’s emotional well-being.
Connect with the Guest
You can reach Tommy Kilpatrick on Facebook: Tommy A. Kilpatrick
Book a free 15-minute consultation: https://www.diy-debtrelief.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571446316625
Book: Forgive and Forget: How to Nuke Your Credit Card Debt (free with consultation)
Amazon Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D1DV398C?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_TABG4YT3DN97G3VGCE7F.
Email: tom.yourhelpexpert@gmail.com
Message from the guest:
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1. Banks don't lend money: https://www.educatedinlaw.org/2017/03/banks-dont-take-deposits-banks-dont-lend-money/#
2. Banks must have a promissory note for the bank to grant a loan.https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/4/4a/Modern_Money_Mechanics.pdf
The Federal Reserve says the only way a bank can make a loan is if you first sign a promissory note to pay and the bank will enter numbers in your free checking account. Page six, right column, second paragraph, second line.
3. Fraud undoes all contracts.https://casetext.com/case/vokes-v-arthur-murray-inc
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