In this episode of Modern Mystics, Stephanie and Kasia sit down with relationship and life coach Chris Davids for a wide-ranging conversation about attachment styles, nervous system regulation, authenticity, and what it actually takes to build secure, healthy relationships.
Chris brings nearly two decades of clinical experience, blending neuroscience, somatic work, emotional intelligence, and spirituality into a grounded, practical approach to healing. Rather than relying on labels or diagnoses, his work centres on understanding behavioural patterns, regulating the body first, and learning skills that translate into real-world relationships.
The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape adult intimacy, why so many people repeat the same relationship dynamics, and how becoming secure begins with awareness of the nervous system rather than willpower alone. Chris also shares his own journey through divorce, reinvention, and the personal growth that ultimately led to his viral rise on social media, where millions now engage with his relationship insights.
We talk openly about:
• What “authenticity” actually means in relationships
• Attachment styles explained simply: secure, anxious, dismissive, and fearful avoidant
• Why nervous system regulation is the foundation of emotional health
• How trauma lives in the body and how somatic work helps release it
• The anxious–avoidant cycle and why it causes so much confusion and pain
• Co-regulation, conflict, and how healthy partners respond to distress
• Dating in the age of social media and instant options
• Masculine and feminine communication patterns
• Building security through lifestyle, boundaries, and self-trust
• Dopamine detoxes, routines, and modern nervous system overload
• What real commitment and love look like in long-term partnerships
Chris also explains how he works with clients, from individual coaching to group programs and couples work, and offers tangible starting points for anyone who recognizes anxious or avoidant tendencies in themselves.
This episode is a deep dive into the psychology of connection, the biology of safety, and the inner work required to show up fully in love.
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