From Heartbreak to Solo Mum: Roni’s Journey Through Donor Drama, Failed Transfers, and Finding Herself Again
She nearly gave it all up for love—twice. But in the end, she backed herself. Roni’s story is a raw, relatable reminder of how strong women really are.
After a divorce in her early 30s, Roni spent years travelling, dating, and living a vibrant single life. But deep down, she always wanted the chance to become a mum. Her journey into solo motherhood was anything but linear—from a known donor who pulled out just before fertilisation, to falling hard for someone else who wasn’t ready, to freezing her eggs at 40, switching clinics, and navigating IVF on her own. In this deeply honest episode, Roni opens up about the emotional toll, the post-birth reality no one warned her about, and the surprising joy she’s found raising Leon solo.
Key Highlights:
From Love to Loss, Then Back to Herself - Roni was ready to try solo motherhood—but twice, she put her plans on hold for relationships. Her story is a powerful reminder to trust your gut and never delay your dreams for someone else.
The Known Donor That Pulled the Pin - She thought she’d found the perfect known donor—until he pulled out at the last minute, claiming he didn’t want to donate to a “couple.” What followed was heartbreak, anger, and a clinic that offered no support.
A New Clinic, a New Plan, and Her Last Embryo - After a healing trip to New York, Roni found a new clinic (and a donor with blue eyes!). Her very last embryo was the one that became Leon.
Pregnancy Was Rough—and So Was the Newborn Phase - From nausea to complications, then a brutally hard postnatal period, Roni is refreshingly honest about not loving pregnancy or the early days. Bonding took time, and that’s okay.
Identity, Independence, and a Life She’s Proud Of - She’s not “just a mum.” Roni shares how reclaiming her time, making career moves, and nurturing friendships makes her a better parent—and a fulfilled woman.
This episode highlights the emotional risks of using a known donor. If you’re considering this path, make sure you’ve got the right support in place. The Considering Solo Motherhood course includes questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and how to protect yourself legally and emotionally – Find out more
The Preparing for Solo Motherhood course includes the honest conversations no one is having about post-birth reality, support planning, and surviving the early weeks – View course options
Join The Bump Membership to connect with other solo mums-to-be, get expert support, and never feel alone on the journey – Find out more
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